Thinking and Acting in the Positive

 

I have often written about complaints, complaints from other people, about other people, about the human race and just the general idea of complaint. I have tried to end my blogs with positive notes that do not drag down the post so much that no one wants to read my work. I am not the great marketer of myself and rely on the graces of other to share and repost my work. Thank you to those who have done so. As one of my readers I am sure you are asking “where is she going today with this opening?” Well I thought I would talk about the positive of life and count some blessings.

Thinking of positive things in life can be fleeting as we are compounded by the negative so often. So in writing this particular article my goal is to up lift and motive people into the positive. Showing a side of humanity that is often missed or disregarded and even expected but not acknowledged.

We miss the positive things in life from the constant bombardment of negative energy. The kind stranger at the grocery store that holds the door open for you, the nurse that bandages a scrape on your child’s knee at the beach. And just because she is a prepared Mom that way she is doing it and it is in her nature to care. The true kindness and not the fake covered up people that cheat behind the back of the honest. I am talking about the true positive, those with integrity, respect and dignity. That is what we as humans should strive for. Not the wolf in sheep’s clothing but the true and the real.

I know most of you are thinking we must have the ying with the yang and of course we do otherwise we would not be human. Not everyone of us can be in a good mood and not all of us can be positive people. That is the nature of humans. Some of us are just crusty and that is that. But there are many of us who can be the positive and bring the light to the dismal and dismayed. Sometimes it is a simple smile or the larger ability to forgive an act from the past, even just the offer of your seat on the subway. These simple acts of kindness of positive will come back to you three times more when delivered with a light heart and joy. Or for that matter delivered at all. What does it take to smile at a stranger, nothing really even if they do not smile back you may have given that person the up lift that they needed for the rest of the day. We really never know what is going on in the lives of others and gracing our humanity with simple acts of kindness, dignity, respect and compassion can make a world of difference that you or we for that matter may never know.

It is difficult as humans to remain positive and forgive yourself for the bad days, but remember there is always sunshine and there are always brighter days ahead. Things happen in life for reasons that we cannot always explain, but one thing I do know is that keeping a positive outlook is healthy and less stressful. Take that moment to hold the door for a stranger you never know who that person might be and how positively you may be paid back.

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Summer Heat Wave vs. Winter Cold Blast

 

I have come the conclusion that the heat, although welcome, is actually worse than the cold for the human personality. With no escape from it’s powerful grip we bear what we can. At least in the winter we can put on a sweater!!!

It has been almost a week that our great province has been under a heat advisory and the temperatures have climbed steadily into the thirties. It is without relief that many of us sit like panting dogs suffering and wishing for January???? Well… maybe not January but certainly the cooler weeks of September would be a welcome treat right now.

 

I must be clear that after the winter we had I will not complain about the heat. My thought is though that we cannot escape the heat the way we can escape the cold. Let’s face it in the months we refer to as winter, being December through mid-March or so we can dress for the weather and participate in activities indoors and outdoors. We can enjoy the days that are short by making a special effort to be with family and friends and plan activities that engage us through the cool and cold months. Even the spring rains are fun to play in. But when it come to a heat wave…..what is one to do?

Trapped inside where the cold air blows, most of us give into the AC quickly. I am one of those people who cannot stand the heat and gives in as soon as the temperatures are above twenty-two. I mean really why should we suffer? I have often been accused of being a creature of comfort and I suppose to some degree I am just that. But does that make me mad? No just the opposite, I enjoy the finer things in life and AC is one on the top of my list.

So to compare the summer’s heat and the winter’s cold and the effect on personality is actually quite fair. I have been yelled at, although why someone would spend that energy in this weather to me is torture to one’s self, bumped into, disregarded, cut off in my vehicle, grumbled at and have seen the general disregard for humanity that comes along with the long cold and deep winter months. I thought that summer was the season of joy for us Canadians, maybe I stand corrected and that is not the case but when I see what the heat does to us and in a shorter period of time I question how we managed in the past to survive without eliminating ourselves through one barbaric way or another.

So what to do about the heat??? We, as I have said earlier in this article, in winter we can put on a sweater. “So” you say, “but what do we do when we are already down to our skivvies and there is nothing left to remove?” Good question and one I wished I had the answer for, but I do not. I have seen many crazy ways to cool down and I am sure social media and the video sites are full of crazy ways to build that homemade AC unit (do not do that at home). Try a local pool or the lake if you are near one. Seek out a cooling centre. Visit friends or family with a cool place to be. Do not let the heat get to you even if your truly are a winter person. I think I am a fall kind of lady…looking forward to harvest season.

 

Stay cool!!!

 

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Short and Sweet, Blocked by Nothing

 

I do not know if it is summer or just a good case of writer’s block but I have had blanks in my overly creative mind for the last couple of weeks. The exercising went downhill with the rise in temperatures and out the window flew the words that usually end up on a page. Frustration for someone who never stops thinking.

I have often wondered how other writers deal with writer’s block, but have never asked or even really thought about asking another writer. I suppose it is just something we deal with and try as hard as we can to move on. I force myself to write this blog right now. I think it maybe loosening but there is still that feeling of pressure in the back of my mind.  

 

Writing is such a self-motivated career especially if you are a fiction writer and rely on your own thoughts to produce the work. Now if you work for a company in which you write technical manuals I suppose the writing never stops as it is fairly cut and dried what one puts down on the page. But those of us who adore the fiction, the creation of the story, the settings, the development of characters and the journey the mind takes as the story unfolds we have a tendency to get lost in the creative abbyss of nothingness. Sad really when you think of it because I know when I am driving and cannot write anything down I have great lines or story possibilities. Another bummer of a place is the shower when everything is wet including paper and pen and jotting down the next best seller is out of the question.

Another killer of the inspirational mind is the having he children home from school. Do not get me wrong I love my children deeply, but, as most and all parents can attest children sap your mind of all things and distract you to a point to where all the good ideas just disappear. Now that being said the opposite can take place too. If you write children’s stories you can spend the summer with your note book and jot down all kinds of great story ideas and listen to them talk to catch great lines. We all know that children can say some of the most amazing things at times.

So I must say there is an A side and a B side to all of this writer’s block and the mind drain of summer. I must just walk about with my note book and write it all down. I am sure my children will fill the creative gaps if I listen and they will help refuel the empty tank.

See I am writing better already!!! Now go ahead and try it, you may find that master piece is just in front of you!!!

 

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